Before and After

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Living Before and After

Life is full of Before and Afters; it really is a whole collection of transitions and how we manage these will in turn determine how we cope. We have all seen those before and after photographs to do with dieting, cosmetic surgery, injuries and disasters.  We have admired photographs of hair cuts, new clothes and gardens in bloom and hopefully not in the disaster category, you’ve taken some photographs of your DIY projects! Sometimes these transitions are full of sadness such as a bereavement or other loss. We remember with regret how we were before an event and can struggle to resolve the associated pain. At times the after period can generate hope and optimism such as when we learn new skills get a new job or come into some money. Even the process of ageing is a whole series of before and afters and can bring a mixture of feelings and sometimes a few aches and pains.

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When Does Adolescence Begin and End?

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Adolescence: New Guidelines for UK Psychologists

It has been reported recently that UK Psychologists are being given new guidelines relating to Adolescence.  It contradicts our existing idea that the transition to adulthood occurs at the age of 18 and that now, this should be considered to be age 25.  We could have plenty of discussion about this point and it would be interesting to hear how some younger people feel about this.  I certainly recall my own earlier years as feeling like a dash to “grow up,” to become an adult with all the relative fringe benefits that might bring, being able to do all those grown-up activities lawfully!  Read More»

Balance Your Emotional Books


Age of Austerity

We hear a lot about austerity these days and mostly, we know that it relates to the government cutting back on spending in a way that few of us have experienced before.  The grand themes of cut-backs, fiscal policy, debt measured in billions and so on resonate with us all as we each try to balance our own books so that our personal spending as close as we can, matches our incomes.  Not always easy!
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Featured Post

Brighton Therapy Service: News and Views

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Welcome to Brighton Therapy Service!

We launched Brighton Therapy Service in April 2012 and so far, we are pleased with the response we have had to the site and the services we offer.  We are always keen to hear from our visitors whether it is to say hello, give us some ideas or to arrange therapy for yourself or your child.  We specialise in providing therapy for children and young people but we can help you with a range of difficulties whether you are a child or an adult.  If you are here considering us for therapy and you are not sure whether we are the right service for you, please do get in touch.  We can  advise you  and always suggest  other options which we think could be helpful.
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Managing emotional storms in your child Part 4

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Rainy days in half term –  working out what is wrong

Oh no! After a fantastic sunny weekend it is raining again. You probably want to get on with some things at home.  is your child whining or arguing with a sibling?  Children always act out rather than work it out.  It is our job as adults to try to make sense of the behaviour.  It is very helpful in doing this to think of children’s problem behaviour as a communication and ask yourself, “What question is my child asking me by being so difficult today?” Read More»

Tangible Rewards

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Half-Term: Tangible Rewards for Parents and Children

In half term week it is important to have a positive approach to boundaries so that everyone including the parents can relax. School Holidays are great for children and can bring some terrific opportunities for honing those parenting skills!   At the same time, it can bring challenges with the interruption to a busy work or home life and constant contact with the children who are used to all that stimulation that school life can offer. Read More»

Does Diagnosis Matter?

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What’s in a Name: Does Diagnosis Matter?

I wonder if you recognise these words, “Tis but thy name that is my enemy?” Probably not. How about this line, “…That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet?”

Of course, now we’re getting warmer! That is Shakespeare’s Juliet speaking about her beloved Romeo. She has been brought up to believe that anyone with the name Montague is bad but she is questioning this and making up her own mind about the man. She concludes that whatever his name, he would still be the same person she loves. Read More»